There can be multitude of circumstances for which the penis not between in erection, or it does it in an insufficient way as to carry the coitus out. If this happens in an occasional way, it does not have the minor importance, since it can owe to the most varied causes: weariness, sleep, details of the couple that have bothered us, worries, insufficient stimulation and a longest etc.
Only when this void or scarce erection of the penis is more or less permanent, it is when we can speak about powerlessness.
We can do two big groups with the causes of the powerlessness: physical causes and psychological causes (although both types of causes can happen simultaneously).
I will not go deep into the physical causes, but I will mention as example someone: Hiper or Hipotiroidismo, adrenal Hyperfunction, Hypertension (for the antihypertensive medication), in some cases the Diabetes Mellitus, consumption of barbiturate, I abuse the alcohol, etc.
Between many possible psychological causes I will quote the following ones:
a) Fear of the defeat, which can appear before a fortuitous episode of powerlessness that then is perpetuated, since being permanently dependent on if the erection is achieved or not, it makes difficult that there break loose the reflexes that might lead the same one. ¼ br/> b) destructive Relations inside the couple, which could make him feel the male like despised or used.
c) To feel pressed for the expectation of reaching high levels of sexual execution.
d) Strong feelings of inferiority or defeat.
e) Fears acquired in the infancy. etc.
f) Contradictory messages of the couple (of interest and of lack of interest in the sex)
If what we want is to prepare, we must go rejecting of our head, this tónta and false idea of that the man must be “much man”, and be always very ready and be capable always of satisfying his couple; porqué? who says that we could not worry, discouraged, or simply angry?.También it would be suitable that we all knew that most of men happen for stages of sexual difficulties, between which the most habitual serious powerlessness.
Saying the things of another form, we would say that we must not support our personal pride in the grade of erection of our penis.
On the other hand, the differences that we should have with our couple and the feelings that his attitude produces in us, we must express them openly, without avoiding at any price a discussion, since otherwise, if we keep silent about ours that that bothers us, we run the risk that these differences or feelings move to the sexual relation, causing inconveniences as it can be an episode or a powerlessness period.
But if finally the annoying powerlessness takes place, the following advices can follow:
Do not give him any importance if only it has happened to you in an occasion, or in several but coinciding with changes with your life for example: change of couple, illnesses, stress, couple disputes, etc. Simply he waits, of course everything will return to the normality.
If it is a question of not passing powerlessness, he observes if it always even happens to you if you try to masturbate, of being like that consults a doctor - urologist to discard physical, once discarded or solved problems, comes to a psychologist - sexólogo if the problem continues.
If only you observe the problem during the coitus, or only with a couple but not with other one in case you should support relations with more than one person, consult straight a professional
of the psychology - sexología.